Meet my friend…..She is a wonderful person,nice and humble,charming and outgoing,attractive in character and in person.She is totally adorable.In fact,if you get to meet with her,I bet you will become a friend thief cause you will want to snatch her from me.
She lives in two different worlds thou,her person at home is totally different from her person outside the house.Her charm leaves and she rarely smiles at home.She has erected a huge fence that demarcates her from her wards.She lives in her head at home,barely leaving her room and never communicates with anyone.Her every motive have been misinterpreted and she doesn’t make efforts to change their notions about her,she couldn’t care much!Let them see her as bad,proud,wayward,braggy,fake and all,she doesn’t change her but it changes her.Even though she is charming but behind her good looks you can see her wrinkles(her bitterness,depression)I feel for her and I wish her wards will be more understanding,quit comparing her and stop imposing archaic characters in her.#ournigerianparents
Communication bridges a lot of gap between parent and child.Its not the duty of the child but the parent’s to build a strong communication with your child no matter how hard it seems.Do not be all parents around them every time,they do not just need a parent but they need a friend and a confidant in you also.Once you are unable to communicate efficiently with them or try to impose a character that is not theirs in them in the name of communication,the child automatically builds a wall of demarcation between you guys which is impenetrable.Breaking down such walls is often a manual labour which is hard to accomplish.
In the communication process be totally understanding.Do not be quick to judge or run into conclusions in what they do.Show them you understand and teach them diligently on what is right,not scold them vehemently and force them into following your decisions.Create time for them and show them how valuable they are to you.
Avoid Comparison. A and B might be blood relatives but A and be mustn’t be similar in attitude. In correcting your child never compare him with another person.Allow then to be unique in the way God created them to be.Allow them to be themselves.You are not there to change who they are but to direct them to be themselves, to offer guidance and not to always take decisions.I know you trying to show them love,but that Child who doesn’t learn to be himself will never be fulfilled and will continue to feel like a stranger in this world.Give tour child a break let them do exploits.Even God our father says that He is with us to show us the paths in life and its left for us to choose which way to go.Be like Jesus is unto your ward!I rest my case
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